Oh dear, for some reason I had to make a project out of every hobby, and every hobby had its own instagram account 🤦♀️ thankfully none of them survived and now I just journal! 😂 All we need is a notebook.
I have definitely (still do?) live this life. I always succumb to the reality/truth that unless I live the most aesthetically pleasing home with all the right picture taking accessories, I will just have to accept that I am me and social media likely doesn't need another mediocre wannabe crafter 🤣
I love this so much!!! I have my own website where I blog about books, but practically no reads it. I kept thinking about moving over to substack so more people would read my writing, but this piece made me reconsider. It’s ok if it’s just me reading the things I write. Plus it looks pretty and makes me happy 🥰
ah this makes me so happy! not that there is anything inherently wrong with wanting to share things, as long as you know you don't have to! but also love you have a pretty space just for you :')
Im glad you said this, because I made my own blog site last year and no one reads that either. I want people to read it, but I mostly created it for my own sake.
and that's why neocities is so good! you can follow sites that you like and sometimes people have guestbooks on their site so you can leave cute messages about how cool their site is! and you can add links to websites you like on your own page so other people can find them. it's v community driven, so much more than social media. also tumblr is still alive and well😁
As someone who’s rediscovered tumblr in my thirties, I actually feel like it’s a better vibe now. You just have to find the corners of tumblr that you like (which tbf can take some time…)
i have recently been considering swapping to a flip phone to avoid social media but i love being on the internet. sometimes you just need someone to tell you the obvious thing and now i am overcome with inspiration. brb while i go find my commonplace journal that i abandoned after a month
Omg I went through this same cycle over the last couple of years! Then I realised that I was making all those bookstagram, journaling and photography accounts simply out of the need to “perform” for an audience. A “pics or it didn’t happen” situation. Ever since that realisation I’ve moved back to my personal website and my little pocket notebook and I feel far more sane and much more likely to actually enjoy what I’m reading/ watching instead of thinking of the best way to photograph it for the gram.
It’s always comforting to know that someone else is in the same space as I am.
It’s tricky because I want to create things and share what I create, but I haven’t found out how to do that without it becoming performance-driven. The struggle is probably mostly symptomatic of not having enough friends at this stage of my life 🙃🙃🙃
girl same, even after writing this I've thought about sharing my website somehow. but I don't blame us, growing up alongside social media will do that to you I suppose
"I am just a girl– sorry, woman, who eats dry crackers straight from the packet sometimes. I am nobody special. Who am I giving the innermost intricate details of my life to? And for what?" let me read that 10 more times because yes!! This has been spinning around in my head a lot. I don't want to lose my creativity in the name of others!!
I find myself being performative even when no-one is watching, trying to maintain some type of look that supposedly will make me a 'clean-girl' or some other arbitrary label I have a weird desire to squeeze myself into. But lately, engaging with myself more on a personal level, having exclusive experiences with myself, i.e hobby journals that only I will see, has helped combat the need I feel to to preform, and given me a little more freedom to live as I please. I love this thank you for sharing !! <3
love the idea of a commonplace journal and building my own website just for fun!! it’s kinda sad that it’s novel to want to make things on the internet without sharing/monetizing them somehow but i guess that’s what happens when you grow up on social media :(
So in the past I would write a short review of the book I was reading. How on earth did I not think about writing my thoughts while I was reading it. Thais so much. Enjoying your content.
The social media burnout/performative work aspect of this also made me think of a podcast episode I just listened to about inevitable failure of mentally going the full 9 yards planning out a side hustle from just a simple hobby before even starting the hobby - before even learning to just enjoy the hobby!! Love we’re all finding that pivot back to learning to enjoy things for the sake of it first 💕
This sparked something in me I forgot about… haven’t thought about my middle school Wix website in a long time! I agree with the sentiment in this post, thank you for sharing ☺️
i feel like this found me at a great time and i needed to read this. i've been wanting to start a commonplace journal and i've been wanting to use physcial notebooks to jot my long thoughts or write poetry but then i think... maybe i should actually just do this on my google docs or here on substack to show people what my thoughts are. but i need to get into the mindset that not everything has to be out there! i'm a creative that feels the need to constantly share anything that i create, ya know? it's like... i need that approval from others which is something i'm trying to get over. but this post has me rethinking sharing everything and enjoying the minimalism and intimacy of my thoughts. i'll definitely be practicing these non-performative ways of tracking my hobbies. :)
I love the idea of the commonplace journal. I had never heard of it before and I guess I've let my imposter syndrome get the best of me because I've only tried social media once for a hobby and didn't take it anywhere but I have a TON of hobbies! It'll be fun to try and track them all in one or a few different places or ways. Thank you.
they're wonderful little things, I can't believe I never had one sooner! lovely to hear you have lots of hobbies to keep you busy :') I hope you have a wonderful time tracking them all🥰
Oh dear, for some reason I had to make a project out of every hobby, and every hobby had its own instagram account 🤦♀️ thankfully none of them survived and now I just journal! 😂 All we need is a notebook.
we've all been there😭 but glad you're out on the other side hahaha
I see this now after i JUST made a tiktok account for my sewing projects🤣
girl delete it😭😭
Girl i was so moved. I deleted my main instagram too😭
!!!! you did that
I regret to inform you that both accounts are now back up and updated. I am nothing in my soul if not inconsistent 😭
hahaha it's okay, it's a journey and you must go at your own pace <3
same!!
I have definitely (still do?) live this life. I always succumb to the reality/truth that unless I live the most aesthetically pleasing home with all the right picture taking accessories, I will just have to accept that I am me and social media likely doesn't need another mediocre wannabe crafter 🤣
I love this so much!!! I have my own website where I blog about books, but practically no reads it. I kept thinking about moving over to substack so more people would read my writing, but this piece made me reconsider. It’s ok if it’s just me reading the things I write. Plus it looks pretty and makes me happy 🥰
ah this makes me so happy! not that there is anything inherently wrong with wanting to share things, as long as you know you don't have to! but also love you have a pretty space just for you :')
Im glad you said this, because I made my own blog site last year and no one reads that either. I want people to read it, but I mostly created it for my own sake.
i want to start my own website but i like COMMUNITY 😖 i miss tumblr so bad
and that's why neocities is so good! you can follow sites that you like and sometimes people have guestbooks on their site so you can leave cute messages about how cool their site is! and you can add links to websites you like on your own page so other people can find them. it's v community driven, so much more than social media. also tumblr is still alive and well😁
I have never heard of neocities before ur article so I will have to do my research and yes its still around but its not 20-teens tumblr 😭
no definitely not the same vibe🥲 but I think you'll really like neocities!
As someone who’s rediscovered tumblr in my thirties, I actually feel like it’s a better vibe now. You just have to find the corners of tumblr that you like (which tbf can take some time…)
Good news, tumblr still has community!
i have recently been considering swapping to a flip phone to avoid social media but i love being on the internet. sometimes you just need someone to tell you the obvious thing and now i am overcome with inspiration. brb while i go find my commonplace journal that i abandoned after a month
we love to see it. go wild
Omg I went through this same cycle over the last couple of years! Then I realised that I was making all those bookstagram, journaling and photography accounts simply out of the need to “perform” for an audience. A “pics or it didn’t happen” situation. Ever since that realisation I’ve moved back to my personal website and my little pocket notebook and I feel far more sane and much more likely to actually enjoy what I’m reading/ watching instead of thinking of the best way to photograph it for the gram.
pics or it didn't happen!! that plagued my mind for so many years. a personal website and a notebook, what more do you need!🩷
It’s always comforting to know that someone else is in the same space as I am.
It’s tricky because I want to create things and share what I create, but I haven’t found out how to do that without it becoming performance-driven. The struggle is probably mostly symptomatic of not having enough friends at this stage of my life 🙃🙃🙃
girl same, even after writing this I've thought about sharing my website somehow. but I don't blame us, growing up alongside social media will do that to you I suppose
I *love* this! Now I have to completely rewrite my latest post to add in quotes from this... 😄
haha ooh i'll have to give that a read!
I'll be sure to tag you when I get around to it!
You should be able to redeem a free post, or sign up to a free trial :) - https://neurodivergentnotes.substack.com/p/my-phone-addiction-is-a-full-time
me as i just had a conversation about my journal and the use of anonymous socials - writing an article with quotes from this :)))))
"I am just a girl– sorry, woman, who eats dry crackers straight from the packet sometimes. I am nobody special. Who am I giving the innermost intricate details of my life to? And for what?" let me read that 10 more times because yes!! This has been spinning around in my head a lot. I don't want to lose my creativity in the name of others!!
I find myself being performative even when no-one is watching, trying to maintain some type of look that supposedly will make me a 'clean-girl' or some other arbitrary label I have a weird desire to squeeze myself into. But lately, engaging with myself more on a personal level, having exclusive experiences with myself, i.e hobby journals that only I will see, has helped combat the need I feel to to preform, and given me a little more freedom to live as I please. I love this thank you for sharing !! <3
love the idea of a commonplace journal and building my own website just for fun!! it’s kinda sad that it’s novel to want to make things on the internet without sharing/monetizing them somehow but i guess that’s what happens when you grow up on social media :(
So in the past I would write a short review of the book I was reading. How on earth did I not think about writing my thoughts while I was reading it. Thais so much. Enjoying your content.
haha it's a great idea isn't it! only thought of it myself v recently too😅 thank you for reading!
The social media burnout/performative work aspect of this also made me think of a podcast episode I just listened to about inevitable failure of mentally going the full 9 yards planning out a side hustle from just a simple hobby before even starting the hobby - before even learning to just enjoy the hobby!! Love we’re all finding that pivot back to learning to enjoy things for the sake of it first 💕
me too! and that podcast sounds really interesting, could you share the ep with me?
This sparked something in me I forgot about… haven’t thought about my middle school Wix website in a long time! I agree with the sentiment in this post, thank you for sharing ☺️
i feel like this found me at a great time and i needed to read this. i've been wanting to start a commonplace journal and i've been wanting to use physcial notebooks to jot my long thoughts or write poetry but then i think... maybe i should actually just do this on my google docs or here on substack to show people what my thoughts are. but i need to get into the mindset that not everything has to be out there! i'm a creative that feels the need to constantly share anything that i create, ya know? it's like... i need that approval from others which is something i'm trying to get over. but this post has me rethinking sharing everything and enjoying the minimalism and intimacy of my thoughts. i'll definitely be practicing these non-performative ways of tracking my hobbies. :)
the tardis reference in here has me cackling cuz it’s so accurate 😭
😂😂
I love the idea of the commonplace journal. I had never heard of it before and I guess I've let my imposter syndrome get the best of me because I've only tried social media once for a hobby and didn't take it anywhere but I have a TON of hobbies! It'll be fun to try and track them all in one or a few different places or ways. Thank you.
they're wonderful little things, I can't believe I never had one sooner! lovely to hear you have lots of hobbies to keep you busy :') I hope you have a wonderful time tracking them all🥰
I thoroughly enjoyed your message. I'm 85 years old. It took me this long to slow my pace and enjoy the rest of my time on this planet.
what a sweet message, thank you marge! it's never too late to slow down and take in all the beauty life has to offer 🩷