Thank you for this <3 it means a lot to read this reflection from a fellow introvert. I really appreciate your newsletter! Wishing you a lovely Sunday and happy new week.
And I was also thinking about the fact, that in some cultures / countries (for example in Scandinavia) quietness is much more appreciated than in the US.
I've owned this book for years and have yet to read it annoyingly! but funnily enough I think now is the perfect time to read it now that I've been having all these thoughts.
I was also thinking something similar while writing but more about the difference between shyness and anxiety. I don't think I'm as socially anxious as I used to be but I still tend to be reluctant to say much. what would you say the difference is between being shy and quiet?
I must confess, that I also own the book, but didn't read it yet 🫣
For me the difference is, that I do say things, if I think it is important. Even in a bigger group. I'm not really afraid of saying something (well, sometimes I am), it's just that I often don't really feel the urge to do so (even if I'm in a smaller group with friends).
i relate to this so much!! all my life i’ve been told im quiet/shy and even though i’m a lot less shy now than when i was a kid, i’ve realized that i still usually tend towards listening as a default (the amount of “you’re so quiet” comments or jokes i’ve heard though 🤦♀️). i think there is a difference between letting shyness inhibit you from doing the things you want to do or say vs being comfortable with your shyness, and i feel like i’m definitely more of the latter now so i dont think theres a problem with it. i love how you framed it as kind of a litmus test to see who is willing to actually take the time to get to know you, and it’s our superpower. thank you for writing this 😊
aw this is a really sweet comment thank you! i think i have some more work to do to become comfortable with it but i'll get there :') also yes the "you're so quiet" comments get real old real quick😅 like have we not met enough people by now to know not everyone likes to yap
I was so shy as a kid I got in trouble at school for it, mainly from power tripping teachers who thought it was an attitude problem. Yes, I was choosing not to talk to get attention instead of just being shy and wishing no one would pay attention to me. 🙄
In college, a guy I liked once said ‘you don’t talk a lot but when you do talk, it’s either something funny or profound’ and that’s always stuck with me.
As an adult I’m still quiet and have social anxiety but I’ve come out of my shell a lot, working retail in my late teens-early 20s helped a lot. Some things are still hard for me, including answering the door for trick or treaters, I’m glad I’m not alone in that.
Thank you for this <3 it means a lot to read this reflection from a fellow introvert. I really appreciate your newsletter! Wishing you a lovely Sunday and happy new week.
thank you for such a kind comment! that means a lot to hear you say that 🩷 wishing you the same!
I'm also quiet, when I'm in a group. But I don't think I'm shy. There's a difference between the two.
You might like this book:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quiet:_The_Power_of_Introverts_in_a_World_That_Can%27t_Stop_Talking
And I was also thinking about the fact, that in some cultures / countries (for example in Scandinavia) quietness is much more appreciated than in the US.
I've owned this book for years and have yet to read it annoyingly! but funnily enough I think now is the perfect time to read it now that I've been having all these thoughts.
I was also thinking something similar while writing but more about the difference between shyness and anxiety. I don't think I'm as socially anxious as I used to be but I still tend to be reluctant to say much. what would you say the difference is between being shy and quiet?
I must confess, that I also own the book, but didn't read it yet 🫣
For me the difference is, that I do say things, if I think it is important. Even in a bigger group. I'm not really afraid of saying something (well, sometimes I am), it's just that I often don't really feel the urge to do so (even if I'm in a smaller group with friends).
i relate to this so much!! all my life i’ve been told im quiet/shy and even though i’m a lot less shy now than when i was a kid, i’ve realized that i still usually tend towards listening as a default (the amount of “you’re so quiet” comments or jokes i’ve heard though 🤦♀️). i think there is a difference between letting shyness inhibit you from doing the things you want to do or say vs being comfortable with your shyness, and i feel like i’m definitely more of the latter now so i dont think theres a problem with it. i love how you framed it as kind of a litmus test to see who is willing to actually take the time to get to know you, and it’s our superpower. thank you for writing this 😊
aw this is a really sweet comment thank you! i think i have some more work to do to become comfortable with it but i'll get there :') also yes the "you're so quiet" comments get real old real quick😅 like have we not met enough people by now to know not everyone likes to yap
I was so shy as a kid I got in trouble at school for it, mainly from power tripping teachers who thought it was an attitude problem. Yes, I was choosing not to talk to get attention instead of just being shy and wishing no one would pay attention to me. 🙄
In college, a guy I liked once said ‘you don’t talk a lot but when you do talk, it’s either something funny or profound’ and that’s always stuck with me.
As an adult I’m still quiet and have social anxiety but I’ve come out of my shell a lot, working retail in my late teens-early 20s helped a lot. Some things are still hard for me, including answering the door for trick or treaters, I’m glad I’m not alone in that.