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thank you for sharing irene <3 it is a weird experience isn't it? I hadn't really thought too much about it until I wrote it down. your comment makes me so happy though, I'm glad you were able to relate in some way, I also now feel less weird about this!🩷

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May 8Liked by Candice Daphne McDowell

The way I relate to this is unreal. I've developed hypochondria over the years from all the things my body has gone through. It's like when one thing is under control, bam, the next thing hits me. I've been wondering if I've developed some psychosomatic symptoms just from the anxiety of it all. But like you, I'm slowly trying to recover and be more in tune with my body, to take the appropriate measures - I've ditched birth control and have adopted a different lifestyle to support my body/mind connection. I no longer want to just ignore the disconnect and end up in a rabbit hole of thinking I'll never live in peace.

We can rekindle the flame ♡

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yes!! one thing after the other ugh it's so draining and I've also been meaning to look into somatic healing bc I think my mind is just way too overactive :( but you look like you're on a really good journey at the moment and I support you!!🩷

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May 7Liked by Candice Daphne McDowell

i started taking the pill about half a year ago and during the first couple of months it felt like my body was working against me and i couldn't do anything about it. i became used to it eventually and i feel a little better now, but i still think about that disconnection i felt from my own body adn just how... weird it was. i found your writing incredibly relatable, and it felt nice reading it and thinking "omg maybe i'm not alone in this". so thank you sm sm

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May 8Liked by Candice Daphne McDowell

I've been on the pill for around 14 years, and just got off it a few weeks ago. I have absolutely no idea how it has been affecting me as I was a mere teenager when I got it prescribed for my PCOS. It was exactly where my mind went reading this post too.

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Jun 7Liked by Candice Daphne McDowell

Thank you for sharing! A beautiful piece!

I’ve lived with a chronic illness for many years and can definitely relate to the feeling of discomfort/pain becoming your normality, and the “good” days feeling more foreign when they come around. 💕

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I'm so happy you were able to relate to this! it really warms my heart to know other people feel the same, thank you for reading :')

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May 14Liked by Candice Daphne McDowell

This was so real. Learning to understand your body when you've been long distance(meaning chronic/mental illness creating the chasm) is crazy. It's like trying to communicate with a baby yet you're speaking 2 different languages. I'm so happy you shared this and showed the gradual nature of understanding our bodies' needs because it's something I'm going through too. I hope you become fluent in the language your body speaks

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thank you for such a lovely comment :') yes that's exactly it! I'm also wishing the same for you too🩷

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May 10Liked by Candice Daphne McDowell

This was beautifully articulated - I also have a chronic illness and my god 🫠 the hyper vigilance you have towards every single symptom / pain / food / drink / medication is exhausting. It’s such a minefield. The sentiment of brain / body disconnect and feeling like they are not on the same team is also incredibly apt. It has taken so much work to try and not be so hyper vigilant, but it’s hard when my illness has sent me to a&e more times than I could count bc my life was actually at risk. So how do you walk the line in your brain of being aware enough of what’s going on (and understanding when your life is at risk) to feeling a pain in the body and not hyper fixating on what it could be and try and move on? How do you find balance in that!!!!

The line ‘I can’t take my eyes off it for a second’ is just SO so so true and relatable I cannot express enough. Having a chronic illness has changed my brain in a way I couldn’t have ever expected it is exhausting (exhausting doesn’t even scratch the surface lmao we need another word). Even though I do not wish anyone else could relate to how we feel with chronic illnesses - it is always nice to find someone who knows deeply what it’s like. ❤️🩷 I hope you are able to find some comfort today xx

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thank you so much for your thoughtful comment :') literally!! i have no idea how to find that balance right now but i hope one day i will. i'm so happy this resonated with you and we could share this together, i'm wishing you all the best on finding that balance!🩷🩷

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