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Jun 18Liked by candice

I can't agree more with your ideas around social media. I used to describe how it made me feel to my friends, and they thought I was just dramatizing the whole thing. I totally relate to the feeling of " Why am I doing that ?. " Thankfully, somehow I ended up noticing the validation cycle that I got stuck into, it was too much to keep up with. As you said, I could've done something else instead of wasting my time online. I found the careless attitude that you developed towards the app amazing. Personally, I needed to delete my accounts and go sober haha! Because I couldn't resist these nonsensical reels. Social media is useful when it permits you to make new friends and acquaintances, but yeah as you mentioned it's no longer social media because it lost the goal behind using it, which is socializing. There's also another thing that caused me to quit using the whole thing, it was how emotional I got when I compared myself with other girls. It got me really inscure about my body. Also, people's life made me hate on my life, because I'm not wearing parada or using dior makeup. Glad I stopped all of that. It's been a year after the last time I used instagram ( since it was the only app that caused me problems, didn't have TikTok as well hehe) and my life feels much better. The same way you described life feels full with meaningful stuff. I enjoyed your podcast, it's so cozy and calm. It made me feel like I'm chatting with my girlfriends. Looking forward for another one! Keep going, dear <3

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that's so annoying that your friends didn't understand you, i feel like i know exactly what that feels like (and that's why I'm not friends with them anymore lol) and definitely, the possible friendships are just not worth the hassle anymore, finding friendship in real life is much more exciting! and yes the comparison killed my self worth also, i’m so glad you've been away from that for a whole year that's incredible!! thank you so much for your lovely comment and for listening 🩷🩷 I'll have another ep out soon!

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Jun 20Liked by candice

loved this so much! definitely felt like i was just chatting with a friend hahah. i’ve been feeling the exact same recently and maybe a month ago deleted instagram and haven’t had snapchat or tik tok for a long time. what i’ve been trying to understand which you talked a bit about was why was i posting reels? why did i post? like i had the SAME thoughts like i don’t want to be an influencer why am i doing this? so thanks for this episode really enjoyed it

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hehe i nailed the vibe🥰 yes! so glad I'm not the only one, like why are we actually here? thank you so much for listening, I'm glad you enjoyed!

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"I'm not at work" 🤣🤣🤣 I just loved every second of your podcast! I 1000% loved and agree with your thoughts about social media and thank you so much for talking about it because I feel like people expect you to keep on posting or you set your own pressures to post (maybe based on my business). I'd had to go off of it for the past two months because I was at my limit and I need to stop and collet myself. and lemme tell you it was scary AF because it's what brings business and clients but I had to put myself first! I had no clue about the AI people commenting like it takes me back to the early days of instagram when bot followers were a new thing. By the way 1000% agree with TikTok and the shift of "going online." Like the whole "I feel like I need to make something" like for who or what reason. I'm not sure if I make sense. Looking forward to following you!

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don't tell my manager😂 I'm so glad you enjoyed it, thank you for listening! it's definitely scary if your business is involved! i think there are ways to build businesses without social media these days, it's a little harder but worth it for your wellbeing. and yeah i get you, we don't all have to make products! it's awful we have all been shifted into this way of thinking. I'm on a mission to take us back to chilling under the sun eating grapes mode honestly I'm tired :)

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I am trying to figure out how to build my business without social media so I am all ears if you can send me any type of info! It is harder but just these two months I have brought in more teacher clients to work with me as their mentor biz partner and it blows my mind! I agree that it's awful that we all have been shifted into thinking this way and I AM SO HERE FOR THIS MISSION! I have subscribed

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hahaha honestly yeah! I feel like so many people probably don't like making reels and stuff but feel like they have to for some reason?? like is this really what you want to spend your time doing? I love that you've found some positivity after deleting the apps though! thank you sm for listening🥺🥺

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